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How Toxic Masculinity Ruins Workplace Culture

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The three scenarios below represent an all-too-common problem in U.S. workplaces today:

A break-room conversation among men turns into a discussion about the appearance of the women in the office. One of the men puts a new intern on the spot, asking him which women he finds attractive. The young man is uncomfortable with the topic but sputters out an answer. Later, he is ashamed of himself for succumbing to the pressure.

A female executive meets with three male colleagues. One of the men asks her to take notes, saying, “You’re just better at that sort of thing.” The woman, concluding she needs to nip that attitude in the bud immediately, responds, “No, I think you’re fully capable.” The man mutters something under his breath. She is “accidentally” left off the next meeting invitation.

A man and a woman from the same sales team win a large account. The team manager gives full credit to the man, who later receives a pay increase. The woman’s salary stays the same. She is told, “Your numbers just weren’t there.” When the woman questions the manager about getting no credit for the sale, he brushes her off, saying it was a team effort and she should be a better team player.



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These situations reveal a culture of toxic masculinity—sometimes known as “masculinity contest culture”—which results in hostile work environments and undermines efforts to achieve diversity, equity, and inclusion. The effects of toxic masculinity are harmful to both women and men. However, women, racial and ethnic minority groups, and those who identify as LGBTQ bear the brunt of the microaggressions and overly dominant behaviors associated with toxic masculinity, workplace psychologists say. Left unchecked, toxic masculinity will ruin an organization's culture.

What Is Toxic Masculinity?

Masculinity becomes toxic when men feel they need to conform to rigid gender norms, which include:

  • Acting like a bully to maintain a constant competitive advantage.
  • Avoiding losing at all costs.
  • Restraining one’s emotions, except for pride and anger (which are the only acceptable masculine emotions to express).
  • Showing strength and aggression in moments of conflict.
  • Being dominant over women and other men (which is typically displayed through microaggressions).

Not a Campaign Against Men

There’s nothing wrong with masculinity, but it’s essential to separate traditional masculinity from the toxic behaviors that create negative cultures.

Clinical psychologist and author Dr. Ellen Hendriksen says toxic masculinity occurs when respect and deference are mistakenly conflated. Traditional masculinity typically involves the expectation of respect or admiration for one’s abilities or accomplishments. Respect can be equal and reciprocal between colleagues; it doesn’t imply ranking or hierarchy.

But toxic masculinity is different, Hendriksen says, because those who practice it call for deference. They believe others should comply with their rules or submit to them. That automatically creates a pecking order.



Toxic masculinity involves an ultra-competitive, dog-eat-dog work style that supports a patriarchal system designed to keep men on top. It encourages the mind-set that outspoken men are assertive, while outspoken women are aggressive. Toxic masculinity is on display when men interrupt or talk over women, take an inflexible attitude, and navigate the workplace like a battle zone to be conquered. These behaviors keep the “old boys club” alive and well in our workplaces.

Masculinity becomes toxic when it’s tied to behavior designed to “get ahead at all costs,” says Lisa Hickey, CEO of Good Men Media Inc. and publisher of The Good Men Project, an online social and editorial platform.

The same toxic message is echoed in phrases such as “Winning isn't everything—it’s the only thing.” When these attitudes take hold, abusive behavior that helps men get ahead is minimized, normalized, or even encouraged, depending on the workplace culture.

These ideals of masculinity can become “all about asserting power and dominance in the workplace, and that often includes using systemic sexism and racism to an individual’s benefit,” Hickey says.

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It Hurts Men, Too

Men are not immune to harmful forms of masculinity. In some cases, the environment created by this masculine ideal may be unhealthier for men than for women in an organization. Men who are subjected to gender stereotypes at a young age often believe they must be dominant and in control to be manly. When they don’t feel they possess the traits of a “real man,” they may overcompensate with behaviors perceived to fit the mold. Unfortunately, the impact of these behaviors can affect coworkers, creating a toxic work environment.

Outside of work, men are generally expected to be the providers for their families. Women are expected to be the caretakers. In the workplace, this can impact the use of company policies and benefits meant to serve everyone.

Jacob, a male employee at a midsize financial firm who asked that only his first name be used, experienced the impact of toxic masculinity at work. When his company expanded employee benefits to make men eligible for a paid, six-week paternity leave, Jacob’s wife was eight months pregnant. Elated that he would be allowed to bond with his new child longer than the two to three days he had taken off work for the birth of his other children, Jacob planned to take the full six weeks immediately at the end of his wife’s maternity leave. Upon learning of his plans, Jacob's colleagues, both men and women, showed obvious disapproval of his decision. Jacob heard comments, both to his face and behind his back, that he was abusing the system and that it would be disappointing if he actually took the time off.



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“Ultimately, I changed my mind because I feared losing the respect of my colleagues,” he says. “I have a goal to lead a team of my own someday, and I worried about how this would potentially affect future opportunities.”

As a result, he took only a few days off following the birth of his daughter.

A company’s expansion of leave should represent a win for all employees. But the only employees in Jacob’s organization who are currently benefiting from the company’s parental leave policies are the women who are expected to take time off to fulfill caretaking roles.

When these behaviors—both the aggressions and concessions—continue to go unnoticed by leaders and even employees, toxic masculinity will be the norm. The fight against toxic masculinity is not a campaign against men; it’s a campaign for men to feel they can step outside the man box and be authentic in the workplace.

Examine Your Organization Objectively

Companies commonly mandate annual training for all employees around sexual harassment and diversity. But such efforts can make shying away from uncomfortable realities too easy. For instance, the Society for Human Resource Management found that 98 percent of companies have diversity training focused on gender, yet only 25 percent of people from diverse groups say they have benefited from the programs.

When leaders fail to see how toxic masculinity influences their teams’ dynamics, the whole organization will fail. Sexism, racism, and general intolerance will remain, and the culture will be resistant to much needed―and wanted―change.

To create meaningful change, the first step is to get a clear view of the organization’s true culture. Does the organization’s defined culture match the one that actually exists?



If there’s uncertainty in how to go about measuring the real culture, ask employees. Start with these questions:

  • Do leaders support a patriarchal system that gives men an advantage? Or do they force overly dominant men to check their behavior, whether the actions are intentional or unintentional?
  • Does the organization support women and people of color in the same ways it supports white men?

Finally, ask what can be done to reverse societal norms that shape organizational cultures.

DE&I Training Follow-Up

Continue providing mandatory diversity, equity, and inclusion (DE&I) training, but consider changing it up. Make training sessions shorter and more frequent. Too often, annual mandatory DE&I training feels like a one-and-done activity employees have to just get through to continue doing their jobs.

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Micro-learning modules can be useful when following up DE&I training. When employees are given incentives or badges, like many micro-learning programs provide, they often feel a desire to do well in an activity. Continued exposure to DE&I information may result in a change to previous beliefs and behaviors.

Training shouldn’t be just a class on DE&I that covers the legal issues and risks. Instead, it should encourage behavioral changes and highlight social benefits to all employees.

Encourage Employees to Speak Out

Incidents of toxic masculinity happen every day at nearly every organization, although they are not usually taken to HR as complaints, workplace psychologists say.

“SHRM’s own research has identified the power of interactions where toxicity is at play with roughly 54.5 percent of workers indicating a perceived toxic situation in the first three weeks at their organization,” says Alexander Alonso, SHRM chief knowledge officer. “The impact is remarkable with that level of toxicity attributable to excessive masculinity yielding turnover in three out of every 10 situations in my experience. Colleagues and peers never truly estimate the cost of a ‘harmless’ joke or supposition.”

Leaders at all levels need to gather stories from their people to see if this problem exists in their companies. A survey of female employees at Nike’s headquarters in Beaverton, Oregon, uncovered a longstanding gender inequity problem and sexual harassment complaints.

Speaking out against these types of behaviors can move an organization toward a culture that no longer tolerates sexist displays, such as asking a female colleague to take notes or make coffee, experts say. Pluralistic ignorance—where most members of a group privately disagree with what the perceived attitudes of the group as a whole—contributes to the ongoing tolerance of toxic masculinity in the workplace. Encouraging all employees to speak out may recalibrate attitudes and cause that perception to fade.



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Experts agree that to truly create a culture change, everyone in an organization must open their eyes to see the displays and subtle effects of toxic masculinity, and that leaders must set the example. No one wins in a dog-eat-dog environment. Without recognizing that toxic masculinity is a genuine phenomenon, there will be no real equity, diversity, or inclusion in the workplace.

Holly Althof is a freelance writer based in La Porte City, Iowa.

© 2021 SHRM. This article is reprinted from SHRM.org with permission from SHRM. All rights reserved.

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